This is the way a woman should be.............

[justify]Call me an Anti-feminist if you like…
Sameera Ahmed
•November 9, 2008


Call me anti-feminist if you like but…

What is wrong with seeking something greater than the self, more pertinent than the fruits of some labor?

Why perpetuate a world of selfish desires. Are we not willing to give up our own fulfillment for the betterment of our family? The occupations we seek, the rights we desire, what are they to accomplish? Will they help us become better mothers and wives but more importantly servants to Allah (swt)? Without perfecting these roles, how can we even begin to ask for more?

What is wrong with being a mother: a profession that allows you to leave behind a true legacy?

We can’t deny that we were in fact created different. It is the most beautiful and satisfying part of life, and we were the ones who were blessed with this position. We are the nurturers. As we render our children, watch them grow, we extinguish our longing to care. Yes, some of us desire to be doctors, teachers some of us even chefs. The beauty of a mother is that it allows you to be the doctor for their flu, chef for their lunch-box meals and teacher for their learning and understanding of the world around them… all in one.

What is wrong with wanting to have warm food prepared on the table when my husband (to be determined…) comes home after a hard day of work?

There is immense joy, delight, and assurance that comes with that which we do as women, but why are some still not satisfied, why do some deny their role and seek another? Although upon receiving the meal, it may bring him gratification, it’s a selfish act. Seeing his contentment will bring more gratification then a prepared plate of warm food will for him. Prophet (s) said. “If, while cooking food, tears come out of her eyes due to smoke, Allah will write a reward for her such as the reward of those warriors (in the way of Allah) whose eyes shed tears from the fear of Allah.” SubhanAllah.

What is wrong with wanting to listen to him and do that which he says needs to be done?

Does it not make you happy to show how you care for him? To show you love him? And not just any love, but a selfless and unselfish love. A sacrificial love. A love of commitment. We obey Allah (swt) because we love him, and for his sake, for the love of Allah (swt), would you deny seeking the gratification of your husband? We were blessed with a spirit of reason and understanding, an ability to offer peace, stability and comfort. Is it so demanding to provide stability to the home when the man takes the responsibility to provide stability for your life?

But still some remain unsatisfied.

“I am woman hear me roar”—Ha!

And so came the birth of the women’s rights movement.

Fighting sexism by perpetuating it with terms like “feminism”

Putting on slacks and that fancy suit coat doesn’t free us, in fact it is now that we are truly enslaved: enslaved to society’s deadlines and rigid schedules succumbing to a system that serves to instill values of greed and haste.

Oh my beautiful sisters,

Call me anti-feminst if you like…
But why seek this self- designed, pseudo-liberation when I’d rather await true liberation…when my reward is with Allah (swt)?